Preparing for the service

Whether it is a Religious or Non Religious Funeral, Each ceremony I conduct is individually written from start to finish, honouring the person who has died, in a dignified and fitting tribute, focusing on everything that made them special and unique.


On most occasions I will meet with the family to discuss the most appropriate kind of funeral ceremony (if the next of kin live a long distance away, it can be done via telephone, e’mail or fax) at that time I will discuss with you your wishes and ideas and together we will create a service that is as unique as the person you loved.


You may want family and close friends to participate in the service, by means of readings, poems, music, or personal tribute. I strongly encourage and support those who wish to take part, to express their own sentiments and say goodbye in ways that have significance for them and all those present. You may also try and include more unusual ways of marking your loss, such as gathering around to place a flower on the coffin, or releasing white doves or balloons after the service, something I did at the funeral of my first wife in December 2004.


As a helpful guide, the following may be of assistance in preparing a Eulogy.


When and where was the deceased born

Nicknames and/or names known to others

Parents Names - where they met / married

Brothers and sisters

Early Childhood - Localities and interests

Schools attended, awards gained

Academic or trade qualifications and achievements

Some interesting items about childhood days

Details of any war or Military service

Details of Marriages, divorces, children, significant relationships

Details of Grandchildren / Great Grandchildren

Details of any Club Memberships, position held

Details of sporting achievements

Details of any hobbies or interests, travel crafts etc

Details of historical significance

Preferences, likes and dislikes

Details of activities, eg music, theatre etc

Any special stories, sayings, qualities that are significant to others